By Martha Beck O, The Oprah Magazine | April 13, 2010 In the past 10 years, I’ve realized that our culture is rife with ideas that actually inhibit joy. Here are some of the things I’m most grateful to have unlearned: 1. Problems are bad. You spent your school years solving arbitrary problems imposed by boring authority figures. You learned that problems—comment se dit?—suck. But people without real problems go mad and invent things like base jumping and wedding planning. Real problems are wonderful, each carrying the seeds of its… Read More >>
Do you struggle with your self-esteem?
Have you experienced relationship loss, abuse, abandonment, emotional trauma?
Do you feel…alone, hurt, confused, insecure, worthless?
Are you struggling to find meaning in what has happened to you, engaging in self-destructive behavior, repeatedly subjecting yourself to people/experiences that lead nowhere, stuck in a bad relationship because you’re afraid of being alone?
Know that you’re not alone
Many of my clients have expressed similar self-defeating beliefs. Something is wrong with me. I’m broken. I’m not enough. I’m unlovable. They have been depressed about the past, fear being alone in the world, and angry about being abandoned.
No matter how devastating your story, you are not a victim or undeserving of love!
If you can change the tendency toward low self-esteem – through counseling you can gain strength and emotional stamina. Instead of feeling overwhelmed by your experiences you surface a much smarter, self-reliant person more able to love yourself and search out healthy relationships that sustain and nurture you.
I’m glad you found me. I’ve been where you are and have come out the other side a much stronger person. My ability to help heal with counseling and coaching comes from my own scars and personal history of loss, heartbreak, redemption and survival. The experience of self-healing for women comes from a unique place best understood by another woman who has “been there, done that.”
Honor your pain but don’t be defined by it. When you are able to turn your suffering into a positive learning experience, Pain Becomes Empowerment!
Learning to be OK with who you are, where you are — is an important first step toward self-empowerment and self-love.
Counseling for Women:
Empowering women to love themselves first and foremost.
Learn to overcome relationship loss and feelings of abandonment. Your longing for love deeply resonates with me. I understand. As females we are taught at a young age to gain the approval of others by being who they need us to be. But we often abandon ourselves in the process and become dependent on others for validation. We work specifically on replacing the myth of “needing another to feel loved” and replace this idea with self-love.
Counseling for Teen Girls:
Girlability – Empowering Women One Girl at a Time
Replace the tendency to base your lovability on someone else’s opinion. Cultivate the skills to look within and draw upon your vast personal girl power to validate yourself. Through counseling you learn to love yourself just as you are, to feel safe, happy and secure by and for yourself.