Do you have healthy boundaries?

Developing healthy personal boundaries is a skill that comes from learning to pay careful attention to your feelings and emotions. If you were raised in a family that encouraged or demanded obedience, you might find establishing healthy personal boundaries to be both challenging and confusing. You would have learned very early in life to focus on what “others” needed or wanted; not on your own needs or wants. You would have quickly lost touch with your own feelings and emotions because they would have felt dangerous or unimportant. In fact,… Read More >>

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Finding the Gifts of the Shadow

Imagine a résumé for your “shadow”—that unconscious part of us that holds all the stuff we deny, discount, disown, bury or pretend does not exist: Vengeful, easily victimized, lazy, bad, untrustworthy. Excel at hopelessness and rage, expert on greed. Not creative. Never finish what I start. Stupid, a loner, damaged goods. Nurture murderous thoughts. Definitely unlovable. No one likes to admit to a dark side—it can be a frightening and shocking experience to our self-image. We spend huge amounts of energy denying and repressing this unwanted inferior self. What many… Read More >>

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Loving Yourself Unconditionally – If Not Now, When?

Many of us were taught some version of the Golden Rule such as “Love Your Neighbor as Yourself.” The question is… how well do we love ourselves? Conditional Love As children, we all seek the love and approval of our parents. Unfortunately, all too often the love and approval we receive comes with strings attached. We are admonished not to be too loud and rambunctious, punished for not getting better grades, and compared to our siblings. Parents are often ill-trained in child-rearing and make the error of telling us “you’re… Read More >>

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